Hi Guy’s,
Please bear with me while I give you some background about me which will help you to understand my story.
I come from a Dysfunctional family background and have grown up through a number of Institutions (Care homes, Boarding School etc.) which, over the years had taken its toll and left me with some Issues to deal with. While I was trying to find my path in life, as you might expect, I took a few wrong turns along the way, which led to me ending up on the wrong side of the Law- I have since turned my life around and been on the ‘right path’ for the past 25+ years.
Jumping forward to more recent times:
Four years ago (2015), a 10 year relationship came to an end (due to my ex-partners controlling Father) which led to me not only losing my relationship, but also my home, my business and most of my Vehicles and possessions. After that process, I knew I wasn’t ready to go straight back to work so, I made some time for myself by travelling to Thailand a number of times over an 18month period before returning to the UK to resume my life.
The plan was for me to stay with a family member for a few weeks while I arranged new accommodation and sourced some work. However, after returning from abroad I fell very ill and was unable to work for about six weeks. When I recovered, I then returned to working for a client from my previous business but, about 6 weeks later, I broke my Ankle after a Scaffold Tower collapsed and landed on my Legs which left me unable to work again for over a year by the time I had completed Treatment & Physiotherapy (which also ‘wiped out’ the last of my savings).
Whilst I was staying with that relative, I noticed some behavioural issues between my relative and a younger family member- who suffers from an illness of addiction. To help, I became immersed in the situation including working with the professional bodies involved with managing this person`s addiction and when I had all of the information, I tried to sit down and explain to them how their behaviour was not only damaging, it was also escalating the health risks to the addict.
It was a very difficult situation- to break through to them, I pushed them to their limit (to the point, if I had spoken another word, I think I would had been physically attacked) but, they still chose to carry on with what they had been doing. They then decided to turn on me (punish me) for forcing the issue, which left me living in an extremely ‘hostile’ environment. I decided I needed to remove myself from that situation as soon as possible- ending my relationship with those family members.
It was a very difficult time that took a lot out of me and left me Mentally and Emotionally drained- basically; ‘I was on my knees.’
I approached my Bank for a Loan (in the hope I could buy a van and approach clients from my previous business for some work) but although I had a very strong Credit Rating, because I had been living on my own money, I couldn’t show a means of Income for the previous 2 years so, I was declined and advised to obtain some Wage Slips and re-apply again later.
It was while visiting an ‘instore Costa Coffee Shop’ within this Supermarket, I noticed an advertisement for ‘Customer Delivery Drivers’ which I applied for and was soon offered a position. Initially, I was only looking to stay for a few months to obtain some Wage Slips but during the Interview-Induction process, I decided the fixed working hours would give me an ideal opportunity to recover and put myself back together (the loss of those relationships meant- besides my Twin Brother (who has plans to relocate), I was now on my own in life) and it would also be a quicker way to remove myself from the volatile situation at home… and this is where my story begins……
One other thing you need to know; I have a 29year old Son (2019) from a difficult relationship (when I was young). I have been fighting to have a relationship with my Son since a very early age however, I have never been able to develop a proper relationship with him so, all I could do (as any father should) was to keep being there for him and hope he would work it out for himself and find his own way.
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